365-what did you do?

Happy Thing of the Day: New Year's EVE!!


Tonight, the whole world will countdown to midnight in their respective cities, states, and countries.  The ball will drop and a brand new year will begin.  Naturally, today people will not only be looking forward to the new year, but also at the year that has passed.  What did you do with your last 365 days of life?

Here's a look at the resolutions I made last year:

Lose weight

Get straight A's

Get organized

Save money

Keep the house clean

Join a Bible study

Here's what my year actually looked like:

Started an extended break from college

(my freshman year at UW)

Started this blog

Found an amazing job (which came with a lot less financial stress)

Wade found a new job (again, less financial stress)

(Wade's Christmas Work Party)

Got engaged and started planning my wedding!

Wade and I got a new truck

Found out I'm going to be an AUNT!

Watched two of our best friends say "I DO"

Celebrated my Grandparents' 50th anniversary

Lost my childhood puppy.

I may not have fulfilled all of my "resolutions" from last year, but my year was amazing regardless.  God works in incredible ways.  He changed my whole outlook on my world, made me a stronger Christian, and my life has changed so much for the better because of that.

My year was filled with Love! My year was filled with Joy! My year ended with me finding the hope, which was what this journey was all about! But it's not over yet.  Here's to 2014, and all the fun it will bring!

Christmas Traditions #2 & 3

Happy Thing of the Day: Christmas Decorating Fun!

For my 2nd/3rd tradition, I chose Advent, so we're getting two out of the way today.  This is less a "tradition" as it is just a part of the Christian celebration of Christmas.  Advent marks, in most cases, the beginning of the church calendar in Western society, as well as the beginning of Christmas.  It is the 4 Sundays leading up to Christmas, in which we do many different things!  I will grant to you non-believers that Advent started as a secular event, it is not anymore, it was adapted my German Lutherans, and it is how we celebrate the coming of our Lord.  

The Advent Calendar


Everyone has seen them around.  Some are the little cardboard ones where you open a little door and you either see a picture, get a piece of candy, something like that.  Growing up we had a little tree that spun around.  It stood on this "wood" platform, similar to the one on the left, with 25 drawers on it, and each drawer had a little ornament to put on the tree, the 25th one was a little baby Jesus in a manger.  It is in all reality a countdown to Christmas.  It is also a time of reflection.  Some advent calendars have scripture on them, you get a new verse to reflect on each day.  It is a time to remember the gift that God gave us, and the joy He would bring.

The Advent Wreath.

This may be my favorite part of church during Christmas.  The wreath has 5 candles, 4 of which represent the 4 Sundays leading up to Christmas, and one in the middle, which is the Christ candle.  I remember this part vividly from church- we use a wreath to remember that God's love, like the wreath, has no beginning and no end, it is eternal and lasting.  It also symbolizes everlasting life in Christ.  That through the coming of the Lord, and later His death and resurrection at Easter, that we may have eternal life through Christ. 

1. The Hope Candle: Isaiah 2:2-4, Jeremiah 33:14-16

This is kind of the promise candle.  The coming of the Lord was foretold and has happened, we were given hope by our Creator that He would send us a Messiah, His one and only son, the greatest gift of all, so that we may be saved in Him.  Generally at my church we sing O Come Emmanuel on the first Sunday of Advent, the coming of the Lord is upon us, rejoice!

2. The Peace Candle: Isaiah 11:1-10, Luke 1:76-79, 1Thessalonians 5:19-23

The candle of peace is to remind us of the peace that comes from Jesus Christ.  When we let Jesus enter our lives and let Him take control, we experience a profound amount of peace with that Faith.  A good song to go with this is It Came Upon a Midnight Clear.  

3. The Joy Candle: Isaiah 35:1-10, Zephaniah 3:14-20, Philippians 4:4-5,  Luke 1:26-3 

The Joy candle is to remind us to rejoice! Our Savoir has been born!  The Angles rejoiced, the shepherds came from far and wide to see the new born King.  This is a joyful time in our lives, we need to remember that. Hark, the Herald Angels Sing is

4. The Love Candle: Isaiah 7:10-14,  Luke 2:1-7, Luke 1:39, 45-56 and 1 John 4:7-12

The Love candle is a pretty obvious one.  It is to remind us of the Love of our Lord, Jesus, who came on Christmas day to save us all.  Our Messiah has finally come, and He is the greatest gift of love we could ever receive.  A sinless man is going to die for the sins of everyone.  God gave His one and only son, for us. How incredible is that?!  

5. The Christ Candle: Micah 5:2 and Isaiah 9:2-7,  Luke 2:1-20

We light the Christ candle to represent that Jesus has come, our Savior has been born, our Messiah is here! Jesus said "I am the light of the world". We light this candle to represent Jesus being the light of the world, the bright star that shown in the sky to guide the shepherds and kings to see Jesus, He who was foretold has come! Let's sing some Silent Night now! Joy To The World, The Lord Is Come!

(you can find these verses on many resources related to advent, we usually read most of these in my church as well!)

Christmas Traditions #1

Happy Thing of the Day: Good hair days!

Here we go, off on the Christmas adventure.  I feel like "Christmas" has become sort of a secular holiday.  I know many non-believers who celebrate "Christmas".  They put up a tree with a star on top, decorate their house with lights, open presents, have a feast, maybe even sing some Christmas carols.  I had a boss once who was not a Christian, but sang "God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen" without missing a beat.  Do you even know what that song is about? To me, that would've been like me singing "Hanukkah Blessings", because to me, they aren't just catchy tunes, it's not just a tree with a star on top, they aren't just lights, I'm celebrating the birth of my Savior!  I agree with Bill O'Reilly, keep Christ in Christmas.  I'm not saying I don't acknowledge that there are other holidays, but don't say you are "going home for Christmas" if you aren't celebrating Christ.  Just a disclaimer, I don't have any cited or "reliable" sources for these posts, this is what I have been told at church and by smarter people than me on why we do these things for Christmas.

Since there will be many people decorating their houses with twinkling lights this week preparing for the holidays, here is what I know about why we put these sparkly strands on our houses.  At my house we don't put up big displays of snowmen or reindeer, there are no Santa's in our front yard, we do have a Rudolph we put in the window, but everything else is just colored lights, and then a big ole' Merry Christmas lit up on the roof.  The lights bring us joy, who doesn't love watching intricate light displays?!  But these lights are put up for a much more special reason.  They are to light our way home. The picture is a pretty famous house in CO Springs that is about 7 houses down from us.  Our street gets packed every year to the point where we can't get out of our driveway some nights.  It is an amazing light show, and it fills my heart with happiness every year.  It is magical.

I had a youth group leader say that these lights are to represent the light of Jesus. The star shown so bright that night to light the way to the new born King.  The shepherds and the 3 kings traveled and followed that star to meet Jesus.  He is often called "the light of the world", that star was so bright that night that it lit up the sky.  So at Christmas, we light up the sky with our lights, because we are honoring the light of our world, our Savior, the birth of our Lord.

I'm not saying if you're not Christian you can't put up lights, of course you can.  Twinkling lights are not a religious thing. But that's why I put up my lights, that why we light up our house, we want to celebrate the coming of our King.  We want to light the way home.  In the darkest blizzard, you can find your way home for Christmas to be with the ones you love, just the way the star lit the way for all to see that Jesus was born.

There is a star that goes up in Castle Rock, CO every year for Christmas.  I LOVE when I'm on my way home for Christmas and I see this star. At this point I'm nearing the end of my journey home, and it fills me with so much joy.  The first time I see the star each year I am reminded that Christmas is so much more than some amazing family time.  My Savior was born this day! My God sent His son, Jesus, to save us all.

"And He will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace."

The season has begun.

Happy Thing of the Day: 90% chance of snow tonight!! YAY!

'Tis the season, oh boy.  In about a week, people will be pulling out their Christmas decorations, setting up Christmas tress, Christmas shopping like crazy, oh the joys of the holidays.

In my house we always would do the "remember the reason for the season", which I guess I didn't always agree with, there are other big holidays around Christmas, plus then there is New Year's immediately after, so I was always okay with people saying "happy holidays".  But I always say "merry Christmas".  I say that because it's the holiday I am celebrating.  I'm not going to hide that I am a Christian, and I set up my decorations for a very different reason than you do.

Though calendar wise I do understand that Jesus was actually born probably somewhere around when we celebrate Easter, and Easter should be around Christmas, but regardless, I'm going to celebrate the fact that on "this day" my Lord and Savior was born.  Yes, I am going to put up a nativity set on my make-shift mantle like I do every year.  I'm going to hang Christmas lights because Jesus is the light of the world, so let's light up the world for Christmas.  I'm going to put an Angel on the top of my tree because "the angel said fear not, for I bring you glad tidings of great joy", and a star on my wall because I need to remember to follow that star.  I'm going to BLARE Christmas music around my house and sing "Go Tell It On The Mountain" with all my heart, because Jesus Christ is Born.

I realize people get annoyed by Christmas.  Christmas explodes before Halloween these days in the stores, I have resisted the temptation of buying anything...so far anyway.  I think that everyone gets so caught up in the hustle and bustle that we forget why we put an angel on the tree, why we are opening presents, and why we are celebrating.  Our Savoir has come, Hallelujah! So for the next month I am going to be blogging about Christmas mostly.  Sorry for all of you Grinch's out there, but I want to tackle the "why" behind some of the "Christmas" traditions that have become so secular.  Not that non-Christians can't celebrate around Christmas and put up a tree...but if you are a Christian, why are you doing it, do you even know!? Obviously there may not be a whole month's worth of traditions to post about, but I'm going to post about the ones I celebrate at least!

So please, when someone says "Merry Christmas" greet them with a smile and say whatever you want back, just remember, we are celebrating our Messiah being born, whether you agree with us or not, that's a big deal for us.  I don't care if you believe, I care that you respect the fact that I do, and this is an important and meaningful time of year for me and my fellow believers!

Because it's what Jesus said!

Happy Thing of the Day: being on top of things (I am ready for our trip this weekend and I am not going to have to be in panic mode before we leave! WOOT!)

If you haven't figured it out by now, I am a Christian, obviously.  However, "Christian" is a title that gets throw around a lot that I feel should be a little bit more defined as it pertains to me.  I am a Christ follower. I believe in the teachings of Jesus Christ.  He is my Lord and my Salvation (insert cheezy Christmas and Easter songs here).  Many of my friends, both "Christian" and non-Christian alike, try to throw verses from the Bible at me to prove to me how wrong I am.

The Christians like to throw verses at me about many things.  You should remain pure...1Th 4:3-5, you shouldn't live together before you are married (so you're not tempted to have sex)...1Cr 7:2.  My non-believer friends like to throw out pretty typical stereotypes as well.  You can't be friends with gay people and be a Christian...Lev 18:22, you can't be pro-choice if you're a Christian...Jer 1:4-5 (really the Christian friends like to throw these at me as well).  There are plenty more verses that have been thrown my way, however...I am a Christ follower, and CHRIST is who I listen to. Sure, he makes some points about some of these things as well, but the one thing Jesus always talked about conquering everything, was love...

I got in a religious debate on Facebook with some of my Christian friends about a post.  It was a news story about a pastor who performed his gay son's marriage ceremony.  His son is also a Christian.  I agreed with the pastor 110%.  My Christian friends did not.  They spouted verses at me, tried to tell me I was wrong.  I was taught to love! I was taught not to judge, I was taught to accept others for who they are because everyone is created in God's own image.  Considering I paraphrased from many different Bible verses in those last few sentences, I feel like I don't need to justify my point much there.

These are the verses I try to live by.  These are the morals that were instilled in me by many fantastic pastors, some incredible parents, and wonderful friends.

1 Cor 16:14-Do everything in love.

Luke 10:25-37: And behold, a lawyer stood up to put him to the test, saying, "Teacher, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?" He said to him, "What is written in the law? How do you read?" And he answered, "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your strength, and with all your mind; and your neighbor as yourself." And he said to him, "You have answered right; do this, and you will live." But he, desiring to justify himself, said to Jesus, "And who is my neighbor?" Jesus replied, "A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and he fell among robbers, who stripped him and beat him, and departed, leaving him half dead. Now by chance a priest was going down that road; and when he saw him he passed by on the other side. So likewise a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. But a Samaritan, as he journeyed, came to where he was; and when he saw him, he had compassion, and went to him and bound up his wounds, pouring on oil and wine; then he set him on his own beast and brought him to an inn, and took care of him. And the next day he took out two denarii and gave them to the innkeeper, saying, 'Take care of him; and whatever more you spend, I will repay you when I come back.' Which of these three, do you think, proved neighbor to the man who fell among the robbers?" He said, "The one who showed mercy on him." And Jesus said to him, "Go and do likewise." 

Romans 5: Peace and Hope

5 Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we[a] have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, 2 through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we[b] boast in the hope of the glory of God. 3 Not only so, but we[c] also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; 4 perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5 And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.

6 You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. 7 Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. 8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

9 Since we have now been justified by his blood, how much more shall we be saved from God’s wrath through him! 10 For if, while we were God’s enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son, how much more, having been reconciled, shall we be saved through his life! 11 Not only is this so, but we also boast in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.

Those are just a few of the passages that I hold dearest and nearest to my heart.  I will never judge, I will never hate, and I will always LOVE. 

I'm a Christian, deal with it.

Happy Thing of the Day: old men who love to chat and compliment your beauty and "spectacular personality" (thank you to the great-uncle I had on my tour today, huge confidence boost!)

Right now, I'm going to be one of those people that I can't stand.  I'm going to be like the atheist bloggers who rant and complain about the "silly Christians and their fairy tales". You all get to complain about us, so now, I get to complain about you.

I am not a hateful person.  I generally like pretty much everyone.  I have friends of every religion, even friends who claim they belong to the "church of the flying spaghetti monster", hilarious.  I have friends of different races, different cultures, different incomes, the works.  My "big sister" is an atheist.  But still, posts I see on the internet sometimes just irritate me.  This post is all thanks to this post by a very proud atheist. In his last paragraph he says that Christians should start keeping their religion to themselves, which my first thought was "why don't you do the same".  Christians are not the only ones who don't "keep their religion to themselves".  I'm pretty sure Muslims are quite vocal about their religion, I've gotten in some pretty heated debates with some of my Jewish friends, it's our faith, we want to share it and understand others.

It is the same thing as an atheist speaking about how they think we believe in fairy tales and that we were brain washed.  So were you, just in a different way.  Everything is learned, nothing but basic survival skills (and probably sexual and gender identity) is wired into us.  I was not hard wired to be a Christian, I was born into a family that attended a Christian church.

I, however, was given a choice.  For me, it was a rather easy one to make.  In middle school at my church in Colorado Springs, you have the choice to go through confirmation.  Don't go all Catholic on me, we just call it joining the church, but confirmation is quicker to say.  We get to go with the rest of the kids in our class and discuss our church for a month or so of Sundays.  We get to ask questions, we more importantly get to ask "why". Sure most everything is backed up Biblically, but we are given an answer, and a chance to discuss.  My parents did not force me to go, and I was not pressured by anyone at church or by my friends. I went because I wanted to learn about my faith, and see if it was really what I believed.

I decided to join my church, it was a choice that I made.  I feel it in my inner most being that there is a God and He is good.  I know that there is a higher power helping me navigate this crazy wonderful life, and I know that I have been blessed by Him with all of my amazing talents and with all of the wonderful people in my life.  I do not see it as a coincidence that I started this new journey of trying to be closer to God and then within 6 months got a new fantastic job, where my car can be fixed with WAY less cost, and a fiance to spend the rest of my life with.  Everything I ever wanted came to me when I "let go and let God". I needed to return to him before I could understand all of these wonderful blessings.

To all of my atheist friends out there, I love you.  And I don't say that because I'm a Christian.  I say that because I am human  and you are my friend.  That being said I would like to argue of the points that have been made to me over the years about "being a Christian".

1. If God is so real, why does he let __________________.

Many of my atheist friends make this point.  If God is so real and is your protector and creator, why does he let people rape and murder and send all of these crazy wars and weather and.....on and on and on. That's actually the most popular question I get, the biggest defense of atheism I get, and also the easiest one to answer. God gave us free will.  WOOP! If I want to jump off a bridge He will never stop me.  He may be shaking His head, He may try to convince me not to (that's that feeling in your stomach you get when you're about to do something really bad or really stupid.), but He won't stop me from making a decision that is purely my own.  So yes, rape and murder and wars happen, because humans are flawed, because we get to be imperfect, which is why He sent us JESUS, duh!  Jesus died so we may be forgiven, Jesus died so that we may be imperfect.  Hurricanes that kill thousands of people and destroy houses.  Take a meteorology class, shit happens.  He doesn't send those things.  Sure, He did it once, but He also promised never to do it again. So don't try to combat Christianity by saying God can't be real or if He is he sucks, he also sent us Mother Theresa, so there.

2. There is no proof of God, it isn't logical.

Don't care. No, seriously, I don't care.  The people in the Bible are real.  They all actually lived. Jesus was a real person documented in history.  I don't know of a historian who would say that He didn't exist.  It's just a matter of opinion what you think He was doing here. Was He just your average joe shmo who was coocoo for coacoa puffs? Maybe.  But maybe He really was God on Earth, maybe He did save our souls and die for our sins...can you prove that He didn't?  Which leads to...

3. It's not on us to prove He doesn't exist, it's on you to prove that He does.

Okay, I'm alive.  Proved it. Before I go into that I would like to also say, in a court of law, it is up to both sides to prove their case.  Sure there's the burden of proof, but their is also reasonable doubt, which comes from, oh wait, proof. You either have to prove the person committed murder, or you have to prove that they didn't.  As Marshal Erickson would say "lawyered".  But back to my point.  In a very dark moment in my life, I was angry, depressed, and just really over it.  I slammed my hand on my desk, which made it shake, my Bible fell over and opened to my favorite chapter of the Bible, Romans 5, and I knew God was up to something.  1 minute later my best friend called and said "I just had this terrible feeling that something was really wrong, without realizing it I dialed your number, are you okay?".  Yeah, He's real.  I realize many atheists might not think anything of that, but to me, that was a defining moment in my faith.  God saved me that night, He sent me a friend to ease my pain.  He is amazing.

4. Atheism is not a view or belief.

Yes it is, you're wrong. just watch this.  I love it, it's hilarious, and it's fantastic.  You have a belief.  You believe that the universe was created in some way other than  by God or any god for that matter.  But you still believe that.  Your opinion  is that God or any god does not exist.  define opinion - An opinion is a view, and it's first synonym is belief.

5. The Bible is a fairy tale, it didn't happen.

Yes it did.  These people actually existed, the Sermon on the Mount happened, Jesus died on a cross, it happened, that doesn't mean you have to believe in the miracles, or that God was "behind it all", but that also doesn't mean I can't.  It is essentially a history book. Maybe Jesus didn't heal a blind man, maybe He didn't save a dying boy, maybe He didn't heal the bleeding woman, maybe He didn't make the man walk. But maybe He did. And these Kings and places and historical (non miracle) events actually did happen.  So you don't believe Jesus rose from the dead after 3 days, okay fine.  But there are plenty of things in the Bible that did happen, so just deal with it.                                            

6. Christians hate gay people.

No we don't.  Not everyone attends Westboro Baptist Church, really, I could punch every one of these morons that attend this church.  They also protest soldiers' funerals, they are idiots. One of my best friends is gay, you best step off!  I have heard many Christians say "love the sinner hate the sin" when actually, Jesus said the opposite.  He said (and I'm paraphrasing here) "love the sinner, hate your sin".  Rather than lawyered, to all of my Christian friends I would say "boom, Saviored". Ha!  God doesn't hate anyone, but He's not a huge fan of sin. And then He realized, "oh right, I gave them free will.  Okay, I can fix that.  I'll send my son to pay the ultimate sacrifice and save everyone". Hooray! Unfortunately that leads into #7.

7. How could any "loving father" kill their own son?

This one gets tricky.  Technically, Father, Son, and the Holy Ghost, all the same thing.  God is the "father", but Jesus is technically the "Messiah" which literally means "God with us".  The only reason he is called the "son" is because of the whole Mary being a pregnant virgin and Jesus was born, so God had to be His "father", really, God killed himself if you look at it literally translated. Jews sacrificed lambs, God sacrificed himself instead. It's really complicated, and I don't 100% understand it myself, but I'm only 23, I'm not done learning about my faith.

8. Why would you rejoice in your sufferings?

Enter yet again my FAVORITE Bible verse!!
Romans 5:
 5 Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, 2 through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God. 3 Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance;4 perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5 And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.

Also, we rejoice in our sufferings because we are rejoicing that we are still here, we are alive, and we are praising God for what we do have. Christians are generally more cup half full than half empty kind of people, so we like to thank God for the stuff He put in our cup!

9. When you say "I'll pray for you" it makes me mad/uncomfortable/sad.

One of my roommates gave me a great response for this one I never heard before. It was brilliant.  "why? afraid it will work?" Boom.  To me, saying "I'll be thinking about you" is the same as "I'll be keeping you in my prayers".  If you don't believe in God then why do you care if I pray for you? If that is how I practice my faith, if that is how I think many pains can be hurt and I can support you in a way that I know how, then I am going to.  Granted, I don't say it very often unless I know the person is a Christian or doesn't care if I say it/do it.  However, what different does it make if I pray for you. I don't believe that prayer solves everything, but especially since I have started living as a "let go and let God" kind of person, that's what I do.

Here's my issue.  I used to carry this enormous burden around with me all the time. It was so heavy that I couldn't carry it without immense pain.  It was every worry about every friend and carrying their load on my shoulders was awful.  Not that I don't love hearing my friends vent and try to help and support them, absolutely adore it, but I can't keep that for myself.  I hate to get rid of them, they are not my burdens to bare.  BUT, God loves to hold on to those.  He would rather take on your worries than have you suffer.  So I let them go.  I still try to solve a problem, but that's what I do rather than worry and panic, I find a solution.  Or at least I just become a really wonderful pair of ears or shoulders.  So I'm sorry it makes you mad that I'm going to pray for you, but even if I don't say it out loud, I'm still going to pray for you.

10. De-baptisms.

This one isn't something atheists say, it's something they do, and it infuriates me.  Not everyone does it, but to me not only are you making a huge point that you are a "religion", you are also mocking mine, and that is simply not okay.

Baptism is a very big deal in the Christian faith.  Sure, every church does it differently.  Some sprinkle, some do full immersion, some baptize babies, others wait until you're older. Lots of different ways to do this.  But the goal is always the same. You are clean.  All of your sin, past, present, and future, is all gone.  You are clean in the eyes of God.  That is a BIG DEAL!

If you don't believe in God anymore, you do not need to go through "de-baptism" to undo it.  If you don't believe in God, then you don't believe in sin, and you don't believe in the practices of our religion.  So really, if you were a Christian and you were baptized at some point in your life, basically someone either sprinkled you with water, our dunked you in a pretty pool, but it's water.  By undoing it, you're basically saying you believe in the power of baptism and want to undo it.  KNOCK IT OFF.  That would be like me going and interrupting Muslims during their call to pray and ripping off their head pieces.  Come one, have a little respect. The president of the atheist club on campus did this in the middle of the pasture that you can see from any point on your way to class, and then had everyone walk around with a towel on their heads saying they were "de-baptized" and were unclean again.  Seriously, are we in middle school. Stop! It's disrespectful, and it is just as bad as some nosier Christian who just toss a Bible at you and say that's the answer.

Those are just some of my favorite, terrible, things that atheists say to me. And I will say, I do understand that some Christians can be pushy.  I hate that.  I also hate when a Mormon missionary follows me to class and tries to give me a Book of Mormon. I've got Jesus guys, I don't need anything else, back off.  I get that it's annoying! But it's also annoying when you try to convince me that I'm crazy, or that I've been brainwashed, or that this harms me in some way. Wrong. Stay out of it! Don't quote Bible verses at me and "prove" to me how evil God is.  He isn't evil, He is my Wonderful Counselor, Prince of Peace, Alpha, Omega, and on and on it goes.

Honestly, you can believe, or not believe, whatever you want.  I am a Christian, and no matter how much you try to convince me that God does not exist, you won't.  I am grounded in my faith, it is something that I hold very dear to my heart, something I live by, something I will never sway from.  I am a BELIEVER and I will be a believer until I die, and I will teach my children what I've been taught, and then I will let them decide what they want to do with that information, just like I did.  And I chose to believe...no brainwashing or harming of children occurred during the making and living of this life!

Epic thoughts, deep feelings, and harsh realities

Happy thing of the day: No line at Starbucks 10 minutes before work, BOOM! Day made!

I realize that the title of this post may be a little negative and may not seem like an uplifting chance to share in God's amazingness. Just go with it, I promise it gets good!

I have some incredible friendships.  Some, I would definitely say, would be defined as life changing.  People I have met through the very short period of my life have impacted me in a profound way.  They have supported, guided, challenged, and accepted me through all of the twists and turns of life. If you haven't had the chance to have this sort of relationship, I highly recommend it. It is entirely worth the fantastic exhaustion.

So what happens when these types of people enter your life.  Check back to the title of this post.  Epic thoughts, deep feelings, and harsh realities.  That's what happens.  Your universe is completely altered in a way that is unimaginable until it actually happens.  I have had quite a few encounters of this kind, so let me share just a few, outlining them by the examples in my title.

EPIC THOUGHTS

Few people really have the ability to place a thought in your mind that is so vast and so new that it shakes you to your very core.  It is an ability that must be carefully honed until the precise moment that you just know you must unleash it to the universe.

Enter Cliff Anderson.  The world's most incredible teacher, mentor, and friend.  I love that I can honestly say I was "friends" with a 70 year old man.  My relationship with Cliff will always be something I cherish, as short as it was, it was exactly what I needed while it lasted.

Cliff was a scholar, a pastor, and an educator.  He never stopped teaching, even just during a lunch date we could have deep philosophical discussions about our lives, well, really my life more so than his.  I swear he had ESP and knew exactly when something was going on with me.  He was ready with great advice, but also really hard questions.

When I was trying to figure out what to do with my life during college there were dozens of questions during our coffee and lunch dates when I would come home to visit.  I will never forget when I started talking to him about the issues I was having with my church at the time up here in Laramie.  He asked me, "are the spiritual people you are with truly going down a path you want to follow?" It wasn't that they were doing anything morally wrong, it was more to the point that we didn't agree on everything.  And I couldn't stand being in a church that saw things that different.

He also never let me hide.  I remember him encouraging me during a meeting for the new choir group at church we were starting saying that I was always a positive light, that I was willing to let anyone into my heart, and that I gave the most amazing hugs.  He told me my spirit was contagious, and he never let me hide behind sadness or depression.  He made me fight it with those tough questions.  He pulled me out of the deepest holes with the most epic thoughts and words.  He knew what my heart needed almost better than I did.

The most epic thought I had though, was what do I do now that he's gone? Cliff lost a battle with cancer last summer, on July 4th, 2012.  Fireworks went off as he entered The Kingdom, as it should be.  But that left a giant hole in my heart, and I had no idea how to fill it.  Until Cliff's memorial happened, and everyone talked about how he never failed to walk with God.  Oh my, thanks Cliff, I get it now.  He was helping me walk with GOD.  That was what he wanted for me.  For my relationship with God to be the biggest part of my heart, so there could be no more holes.  Cliff made my relationship with God what it is today, and I can still look to our conversations, our epic thought provoking conversations, for guidance when I feel lost, and when I need to remember where God is in my life.  As a graduation present, one of my mom's friends gave me a book called "how to stay Christian in college"...you stay Christian in college by befriending a 60 some year old man during your senior year in high school, and never letting his love go.


DEEP FEELINGS

I never thought that other than my parents, grandparents, and siblings I could ever feel a truly wonderful deep connection with someone on a family type level. Obviously a husband would go in there as well, but we'll get to him in a later post. Some people have different names for this kind of deep relationship.  Teacher, mentor, counselor, mom or dad #2, or simply friend.  Sure we all have friends we call our "brother" or "sister", but this goes a little deeper than that.  To a mentoring parental level.  Someone who has met the definition of just about each one of those titles has been such a great source of support in my life, and I will forever be grateful for this wonderful man.

When I was 10 years old I walked into instrument selection at MRMS, met a man named Scott Singmaster, and from then on my life was forever changed.  Mr. Singmaster was one of the band boys at MRMS, and has been a great source of guidance and encouragement for me since then.  I still to this day find myself wandering to the band room again to see him and Mr. Silloway for some much needed love and support.  Those two men know exactly what to say to me, and exactly when to say it.  They know when to give me the disappointed "dad face" and when to give me the " I love you" face.  Mr Singmaster has been the greatest mentor I could ever ask for.  I know this because I can't tell you how many times he has told me God has a plan.  When I forget that very important bit of information, that God has a plan, and that I shouldn't worry, Mr. S is always there to remind me.  He calls me a worry wart quite often, because I do tend to let everyone place their problems on my shoulders.  When I walk in his classroom it's as if he has this giant broom and pan, and wipes those off of my weak shoulders and says "enough".  When I am ready to give up, he simply doesn't let me.  His is a superhero, and I will never forget or underestimate the love he has shown me.  It is as if he is family, he IS family, and always will be.

HARSH REALITIES

I have this friend, who shall remain nameless, simply because I don't know if that should read "have" or "had".  That has yet to fully be determined.  For now, we will just use "have".  We have been friends for going on 10 years, my oh my.  This is where leaning on God becomes a key piece in friendship.  When harsh reality strikes in a friendship, He really is the only one you can turn to.

Throughout our friendship, this person and I have shared some pretty intense and life defining moments.  Family struggles, heart break, true love, the works. Something anyone could expect from "best friends", which up until recently I felt I could say we were.  This was a friend I could lean on, rely on to have the best advice, or truly listening ears and an open heart.

Before I go any further, I feel I need to define what I mean by a "harsh reality".  In the terms of friendship, this reality is that nothing lasts forever.  I feel as though in friendship, incredibly meaningful ones anyway, there are only two ways in which this reality comes into play- death or lack of effort.  Even so, most friendships don't stay the same forever either, even if they are the rare amazing ones that are ended by death.

This friendship that I'm talking about ended because of the other harsh reality.  Some people simply stop caring and don't put in the effort anymore.  I feel like the two of us are a little to blame, but I am going to be a little selfish here in a bit.  You'll be able to figure out when that happens.

So this friend and I continued this amazing relationship through very dark and incredibly light moments during these last 10 years.  But there was a point at which we shifted.  I'm not really sure when, where, or why, but it did.  We went from consistently level 6 or deeper conversations to level 1 or 2.  Barely grazing the surface of where we really were in our lives.  I must get a little defensive here and say that I really did try to stay at that deeper level.  Again, harsh reality comes into play, and one can only put in so much effort without receiving very much back before they give up as well.  So they weren't the only one to give up, but I definitely didn't do it first.

I was given an example of how we really just weren't that close anymore by this friend.  They told me I don't even know why their last relationship ended.  I got to meet and talk with this significant other, and until asking them "how are things going with _______", I didn't even know it had ended.  I asked what happened and I got a brush off two sentence answer.  I asked on two different occasions and I never got a real answer as to "why" it ended.  They gave a very poor example...though quite accurate in a big way.  I don't know what's going on in their lives.

My wedding is in approximately 10 months.  We were having a conversation about wedding details that went South very quickly.  I got the sense that maybe they didn't approve of my choice in a life partner, nor did they really want to come to my wedding.  This is where I get really harsh (and very selfish) with my reality.  Getting married may mean I leave some friends behind.  I am moving into a new chapter of my life with a man I cannot WAIT to start that adventure with...if you don't support it, go the hell away! This friend is incredibly important to me, but not more important than the man I'm going to marry...not even close.

I had to have a real conversation with God at that point.  A level 157 conversation.  "Why do I have to choose my husband over them? Why can't they accept my decision? Why is everything more important than my wedding?"  That last one was a very selfish question that made God smack me right in the face, but the other two I thought were relatively legitimate questions.  He answered them with another conversation with this friend.  The one where they pointed out that I didn't know anything about them anymore, that I wasn't the friend they took their problems to, that I wasn't one of their "people" anymore.  They were upset that they weren't in my wedding party.  They were upset that I wanted to talk about wedding plans when they had more important things to talk about.  My point to them was, if you needed to talk about something else, you needed to say that.

The harsh reality is that God has put some amazing people into my life, and that means He might take a few away.  And He has.  I had a mentor for a couple of years that is now not involved in my life anymore.  I had an amazing friend who left to go home to his Creator a year ago.  I had a friend who isn't one of my "people" anymore.  But I have a fiance.  I have 5 amazing girls who are going to stand next to me as I say "I DO" in 10 months.  I have new family members (in-laws) who love me and whom I love very much.  I am going to have a new niece or nephew in April.

God knows what He is doing with the people He puts in our lives.  That is something I will always struggle with. I want to choose, but I can't.  Only He knows what I need when I need it, and trusting him means dealing with Epic Thoughts, Deep Feelings and Harsh Realities, and leaning on Him during all of it.

They Call it Unconditional

Happy Thing of the Day: "the place that brings you peace" (via thingstobehappyabout.com)

Love is kind of a tricky subject.  We use the word so carelessly sometimes, or maybe just in place of a different word.  Other languages have multiple words for "love" to better describe the love that they are really feeling.  In French, for example, there is aimer, adorer, amour, (there may be more, but my French brain is failing me right now).  You get the idea though, we have one word for every different kind of "love" that we have for someone or something.  When I tell my best friend I love her, and then tell Wade I love him...completely different kinds of love.

When I was in high school, we covered the four different loves in youth group, the most important being Agape, which is the love we receive from Christ.  It's a concept that can sometimes be hard to wrap your head around, especially when you grow up with parents who tell you "no one can love you more than I do"...but there is someone, there is Jesus.

I have ventured into a new book, and so far, I (insert some less cliche word than love) it! It's called Exploring the Depths of God's Love by Charles Stanley. It's incredible, I highly recommend it, and I'm only 3 chapters in.  So my next couple of posts will probably be about love and this book, so bare with me for a few posts.  These first three lessons were amazing, but I'm going to talk about them out of order, so if you pick up the book, don't follow my posts with the order!

One lesson is titled "You are Loved". What a perfect way to start a new chapter! So encouraging.  It also doesn't hurt that a few sentences in to the chapter, they quote the exact same verse that I do up in the title of this blog.  Romans chapter 5...highly recommended! It talks about how God's love is poured out for everyone.  And the biggest and BEST part of this lesson is that he makes a point of saying everyone is loved by God, and it is given freely.  You cannot "earn" God's love.  You can ask for it, and you can receive it, but you cannot earn it.  It is free, but it is not given without a little bit of effort.  God does not go where He is not wanted.  If you don't want God in your life, He will not force Himself on you, He waits patiently for you to come home!

This is why I am talking about these lessons out of order, because one of the other lessons talks about how God's love is UNCONDITIONAL. Once you accept God's love, He will NEVER take it away from you.  Unconditional love was always a big deal in my house.  Once we reached an age where we could understand it, both my maternal grandparents and my parents talked to us about how their love for us was unconditional.
  That no matter what we did, they would love us. My mom has even used the example that we could commit murder and she would still love us.  My mom's favorite thing to say is "no one messes with my kids".  She loves us enough to step in front of a bus for us...and because we were given that love, I know my brothers and I would definitely do the same.  It also doesn't hurt that I had Superman and Supermom for parents. I also had some other spectacular people in my life who loved me just the same.  One of my mentors, my middle school band director, made a point of telling me he loved me as if I was his own daughter, and still does to this day.  There was one day that I was terrified that I had disappointed him to the point where I might be exiled from the band room forever.  He told me "they call it unconditional for a reason". I will never forget that as long as I live.  That someone who is not technically my family could love me enough to say his love would never end, it was a life changing moment.

This is exactly how God loves us.  No matter what we do, no matter what we say, God loves us unconditionally.  He craves for us to have Him in our lives, He wants to walk with us daily, but He knows sometimes we don't want to talk to Him...and He understands.  There were many times I stormed up to my room and hid there, not wanting to listen to my parents.  They patiently waited for me to calm down (and sure, grounded me a couple of times) but God does the same thing.  He knows there are times we need to storm off to our rooms, and He waits for us to open our ears to what He has to say.  The patience of parents astounds me, and this is no different.

God's love is so unconditional, and it is there for us to grab a hold of and run with! I can't wait to finish this book, it's simply amazing. Hope ON!

Friendship at it's finest

Happy thing of the day~ Pumpkins, boots, and cozy sweaters.-courtesy of FALL!

I have had some truly incredible friendships in my life.  Not a ton of them, but enough to be able to say I am incredibly blessed to have such amazing friends.  Some I have known for many years, some only a short while, but There are some friendships that just cannot be shaken.

A friendship, I have learned, will always have its ups and downs.  I don't know of one friend I haven't had a fight or argument with.  Some are just little tiffs, but others were whoppers.  The true defining moment in a friendship is how it bounces back from these whopper times.  Some of those times, however, seem to be deeper than others.  Some can cause real heart ache, sometimes even more so than a break-up with a significant other.  Friendships, truly great ones, go so much deeper into your soul, that when these moments strike, it really is a boulder you have to climb.

Sometimes, in that moment, that rock is just to big to climb.  There are defining moments in friendships. Turning points that kick us in the stomach and leave us gasping for air.  These moments, for a lack of a better word, simply suck!  There is nothing worse than ending a conversation, and having a moment where you realize, that friendship might actually be over.  You look on the wall to pictures of this incredible person, see gifts sitting on shelves or hanging on walls, debating if they should come down or not.  Almost like in a break-up when you have a clean up day, and trash all of those painful reminders.  Is saying goodbye to a friendship as simple as that? Or, do we relish in the moments that were amazing, and move on?

I have had to say "goodbye" to many friendships, and some remarkably deep ones at that.  Whether is was just simply due to distance and lack of time to communicate, or because of a "boulder moment", I have lost some precious people.  The losses were devastating, life changing, but, not life ending.

The nice thing is, I learned that I have a friend I can always lean on, one I can't actually see.  Every time I hear "What a Friend We Have In Jesus", I remember, He IS my friend.  He wants to hear the secrets of my heart, he wants to know when life just sucks, he wants to KNOW everything, just like a "BFF" would.  So when there is that turning point in a friendship, I know I just have to turn to Him, and I am fine!

One thing I did have to learn about friendship comes straight out of the Bible...and it was a hard one to hear...Proverbs 17:17-A friend loves at all times.

Let's just repeat that, but with emphasis this time...A friend loves at ALL times.  Whether it is a happy, sad, difficult, easy, normal, weird, fun, depressing, ANYTHING, a friend loves at ALL times.  So a true friendship will stand the test of time, it can climb this biggest rock, it can calm the seven seas! Love conquers all, and if a friend loves at all times, really friendship should conquer all just the same!

I have some amazing friends.  Some that send me screen shots like this:

Some friends know exactly what to say and when to say them, or know exactly what pin to send from pinterest!  Some think they know when its time to give up.  Some aren't as amazing as you think.

So what do you do when a long time friendship, a level 100 friendship, seems like it can't stand the tests of everyday life? What if a friend gives you an ultimatum, or tells you they don't agree with the major life decisions you are making? What happens if your friend doesn't approve of another friend or a relationship choice?

The answer? That really sucks, but life goes on!

Is it worth it to give up that decision, that person, that love, for your friend? I guess that would depend on a friend, but again, a true friend will love you always and regardless.  A true friendship is UNCONDITIONAL.  I learned that from a friend who changed the rules.  Our friendship was unconditional, until it wasn't.  They changed the game on me, and I had to live with the fact that my unconditionally loving friend, now had a condition I just couldn't meet... I love my study Bible, it's amazing at telling me exactly what I need to know.  Proverbs (must be the book of the day) 27:10 in the "study" section of my Bible says "Do not fail a friend in need".  If your friend is failing you on any level, maybe that friend should go into the "deleted" section of your life.  Decisions like that can be extremely difficult, but also, extremely necessary...like my lovely friend sent me with the screen shot...sometimes being happy means saying no...or maybe saying "goodbye".

Your happiness is so much more important than pleasing ANYONE (maybe other than God...).  Don't worry, be happy! Find the friends that really have no conditions...they are the ones you want in your "forever" section, the section that also has the name Jesus in it!  Because no one loves us more unconditionally than Him.

Soaking it all in

It seems as though I haven't posted in a while, but I'm positive that it is a good thing.  Though I am sad that I have not been digging very deep in my philosophical and faithful thoughts, it is probably because I have found contentment.  Finally, for the first time in a long time, at the end of the day I can honestly say that I am happy, utterly and completely happy. 

I am reminded of the movie Sex & the City (just go with me for a second), when the girls are talking about being happy.  Samantha is talking about how you don't have to be happy every day in a relationship or life in general.  Charlotte gets asked how often she is happy, and she replies, "Every day".  Samantha is awestruck by this and in disbelief says "you feel happy every day?" and Charlotte simply replies "not all day every day, but yes, I'm happy every day." 

I never thought I could attain that feeling.  I thought that being happy every day was something that just didn't happen, until it did happen.  I have an amazing life, and am so blessed by my Savior with so many things.  I have a wonderful job, an incredible family, and am loved by an amazing man.  How can anything get better than this?   Sure it would be great if one of us got a promotion, sure it would be wonderful to actually have a washing machine in the apartment, and we would absolutely love to live somewhere we could have a dog.  But for right now, in this moment, we are happy. 

This last summer was full of its ups and downs.  We remembered his grandpa and one of my dearest friends as we hit the one year anniversary of their losses.  We celebrated Wade getting a new job, the two families meeting, and the wedding of a couple of our closest friends.  We had a roommate move in, and back out within a few months, and after over a year of living there, are finally getting the apartment in order.  We enjoyed many wonderful trips, and maybe a few too many fast food runs. As fall started to approach Wade FINALLY popped the question, and now we are in full swing of planning our wedding for the end of next summer. We also were blessed with the news that I am going to be an aunt come April 2014, yay for baby Sifrit!!!

Hunting season is now upon us and I can honestly say I have a very happy camper at my house.  Wade always gets so excited when the leaves finally get crunchy, and this weekend he shot the first antelope of the season.  Every season seems to come with some amazing blessings, and when I entered into this journey, I had no idea that finally “letting go and letting God” could impact my life in such a profound way.  I am truly living the life I always dreamed.  I am going to be a wife to an amazing man, babies are starting to enter into the Sifrit family, and my car is finally running with no problems! Yay for working at an automotive tech school!

There are no words for how this blog has helped me on this journey, but it doesn’t stop here.  I am committing to getting back into this blog, because I know God and I still have a lot of corners to search and discover. The one thing I can say, is prayer and devotional time really are so powerful, NEVER underestimate them!

A little tribute

Warning: This is a relatively long post, you've been warned!
I'm going to switch gears a little, for a momentary sort of tribute.  One of my high school teachers, Heidi Rickard, is leaving teaching to follow some pretty spectacular dreams. I'm very excited for her to start her new adventure, but it is quite sad to know that future generations of PCHS won't know that "Kepler kept saying eliptical orbits", or that you can learn all about Rome by simply adding the most disgusting combination of food products to a blender, or that a classroom with lamps and a couch is SO much better than one without them, and the list goes on and on. So I thought I'd take a break from my daily rambling to talk about a pretty special lady who impacted me more than she may know.

I met Mrs. Rickard my freshman year of high school and I can still remember thinking, "this lady is going to turn my world upside down" and OH was I right (but trust me, it was good). I met her in a group I mentioned in another post, called Life 101. The lessons I learned in that club will stick with me for my entire life. I thought maybe, with her following her dreams, I'd remind her of some lessons that lead to me following mine. Not that there weren't others who helped along the way, but we'll save them for another post!

10 Lessons I learned in room 502:

1. The almighty cup:
Oh the almighty cup.  The cup is essentially your life in a cup. It's what you carry around with you every day, and you decide what you keep in that cup. So let's say you're at a party, lots of people in a room, and you've got this cup. It's full of nasty, rotten, depressing goop, and you run into someone who has a relatively lovely cup with some lemonade in it.  When you bump into them, their lemonade is filled with your goop, and now, their cup is pretty gross. Now let's say instead of "goop", you've got a pretty rotten mood, and that lemonade was a very great day. By unloading on this person sipping their day full of lemonade, you just turned their lemonade into some pretty rotten lemons.  I took this lesson to heart, and try so hard not to "spill" my cup on anyone. You don't know what's in someone else's cup, so don't unload your crud on them. Be careful not to take out your rotten day on someone who had nothing to do with it, or you'll find yourself in a fight that didn't need to happen in the first place, and in the process, ruin someone else's day as well.  So instead of carrying around "goop" carry around kindness. Being positive means your cup is positive, so when your day spills into someone's cup, it means it will be filled with lemonade instead of lemons. It's a lesson I constantly have to remember....BE POSITIVE, no FUOs (instead of "cheerios"), be the best version of yourself!

2.The damn Erasers:
If I could go back in time to any lesson in Life 101, it would NOT be this one. This was the worst (and best) lesson ever to hit my life. It's one I still use to this day, considering I have some of these lovely "erasers" on my mirror giving me tiny reminders of my attitude. It started with the big pink eraser which was all about evaluating situations and working through them. And then there came the little erasers that KICKED MY BUTT. They were the little erasers you would put on your pencil when you were 5, and they became my worst enemy and also the most effective tool in my life. A few that I remember vividly (but wish I didn't) were the flower, the frog, and the tooth.....oh man.  The frog was "hop to it" which I still keep on my mirror to remind me to get with it. But the dreaded flower and tooth....The flower was "pick through it" and the tooth was "talk about it". I vividly remember these being thrown at me walking into the room. I hated these little pieces of rubber, until I realized they were exactly what I needed. I didn't really use them until after I left Life 101, but they have impacted how I deal with literally every situation in my life. Picking through it, talking about it, and getting after it are my three steps to figuring out pretty much everything in my life. It's amazing what you learn as a 14 year old can still be with you nearly 10 years later at 23....

3. ARFF and the wheels of life:

ah the ARFF lesson. The 4 wheels of your life. Achievement, Respect, Fun, and Freedom.  I've done another post about this, but essentially they are how you should balance your life. You should never have too  much or too little of any of these things. But you also shouldn't use them as punishment either. If one isn't full, don't see it as something you didn't deserve, think of it as something that was missing and go find it! It's part of filling that cup positively. I used to keep an ARFF journal, and every day I would write down what was fulfilled in each area, so that I could feel amazing and FULL all the time, it was wonderful. Filling your ARFF is essential to being positive, and finding that hope I was searching for!


4:Colors, and being the brightest you can be:
The color test was one of the first things we did when I joined Life 101. The colors are orange, blue, gold, and green.  I won't go into the meanings of each, because that isn't what I took away from this lesson.  What I took away was that I needed to embrace every color, no matter how strong it was in my personality, I needed all four to be complete. My bubbly personality, but loving and giving personality, my loyalty, and my curiosity.  I needed all of it, and though I was pretty electric orange as Wendy used to call me, I needed to embrace and live them all, and I have.  Being electric orange all the time is exhausting, but so is being bright blue, and letting in a little gold and green sometimes is a good balance, and a lot less tiresome!

5. Never stop figuring out who you are:
Dreams change. Period. So figure out where your heart needs to be and get there! I wanted to be a music teacher so bad it hurt, but it took me a while to realize that there were a few different paths I could take and be happy, as long as I got to live out my dream of having a family of my own in the process. That dream is coming true. Will I be a teacher? Hopefully someday. Will it kill me if I'm not? Heck no! I would rather (someday) be a wife and a mother than EVER have that teaching degree.  I worked my butt off and struggled so much, and all the while God was saying "chill, I've got this"... and then I met Wade.  Oh if I'd only listened sooner! So I'm making my real dream come true, and realizing that some things are not worth giving up my dream.

6. Level 10 converstations hurt, but are totally worth it:
The couch in room 502 and the lodge at Bear Trap Ranch help quite a few level 10 conversations that will stay with me for the rest of my life. Level 10 hits you deep in your heart. You battle with things you have refused to confront for a very long time, and you are overcome with epic amounts of emotion. But these conversations leave your heart so full and loved, and though they totally suck at the moment you're having them, they will stick with you for a lifetime and will change your heart so amazingly. Level 10 is totally worth the immediate pain for the lifetime of healing that comes from it!

7. Sometimes you just need to get kicked out of your drawer:
This is a very long story, and if Rickard is reading this she knows exactly what I'm talking about. Essentially, I was kicked out of my drawer in room 502. I'm sure Rickard would describe it a little differently, but that's basically what happened. Oh but the lesson that came from it. I was hooked on this amazing room 502, I pretty much lived in it. I even had a drawer where I kept my things, and one day after school towards the end of my sophomore year, I was evicted. I was heartbroken. I didn't talk to Rickard for probably a good two weeks. One of my friends tried with all of his might to force me to talk to her, but I was just too angry, and felt so unloved. UNTIL, I realized I was being an idiot. Rickard evicted me because she loved me oh so very much.  She hated seeing me stifled by the bubble of 502, and this was how she got through to me. It all started repairing with a note. I came in after school with a note I had written, not a word said. And the next day after school I got a note that I still have and read every once and a while to feel inspired, and a book called You Are Special with this note inside.  It was a lesson I need every year at least once, where I pull out this book and this note and remember I am God's tool, and He needs to guide me. He has a plan and I need to listen and follow Him. I am special to Him and I was created for a purpose, and that purpose is exactly what I need to do!

8. Conversations with your eyes are way better than ones with words:
A frequent occurance in this room 502 was "eye conversations". These little conversations had not a single word in them, and were some of the most important ones I've had to this day. Rickard, and a few particular people, would have eye conversations with me. When they knew exactly what I was thinking, and I knew exactly what they were thinking, and more words were said in silence than could ever have fit in a conversation.  The power of eye conversations astonishes me to this day, and I wouldn't replace them for the world.

9:Be inspired, and let your life echo!
Our sophomore year we had a project for the renaissance lesson. And it was one that will forever be dear to my heart. Rickard asked us 3 questions. The biggest one being what will echo after you're gone? What will your legacy be? This question still resonates with me every time I make a life changing decision. How can I impact the world with this new path? It is something that constantly inspires me, and hopefully this little blog of finding hope will echo with a few people! I decided the biggest thing I want to echo is God's love. If I can make that echo forever in the lives I encounter, I will be a happy girl!

10. Sit on a couch and fix it:
This one is a little complicated. This couch was unavoidable. At one point in my relationship with Rickard, we had a little fall out.  I won't go into all of what happened, but I avoided room 502 like it was the plague (and I learned just how crazy the plague was in that room, so I knew!). I wouldn't even enter the room for fear that this amazing couch would suck me back in (which eventually it did, with a little help from Village Inn and a fabulous friend not minding his own business).  The nice thing was, the few months I refused to be in the bubble of 502, I rediscovered who I was, found new friendships, and started becoming the person I am today. I needed a break from the bubble and the couch, and then once I had done some soul searching, I let that couch back in. But sitting on that couch and struggling through lessons of being a white life saver (*wink wink* Rickard), figuring out my life, and becoming a "grown up", became something I needed to do forever. This blog became my "couch". I sit and type, read my Bible and my study books, read articles, talk with friends, and I started finding the hope I was searching for. And everything I needed to do that came from learning how to sit and struggle on that couch in room 502.  It was one of the hardest lessons I learned, and one that I didn't fully learn until after a few years of college. But all of the struggling was worth it to find this amazing hope that has been found with writing this blog and being with God on a very deep level.

Though I learned a lot of lessons in room 502, these are some that will stick with me forever. I still cannot smile without seeing a white life saver, I will never throw away my binder from honors world history, rice is not just for eating
, and I will never look at a toaster the same way again.  Some of these may not make a whole lot of sense, as I only touched on them.  This wonderful lady has touched so many lives in her teaching journey, and I know that those hearts will keep her legacy going. Heidi Rickard was an amazing teacher, and an incredible mentor, and I cannot wait for her new adventure to start! Thank you for all you have done for so many kids at PCHS Rickard, we love you!